Just realized I hadn't introduced myself here before I jumped into asking questions in the Women's Area. ![Mrgreen]( "Mrgreen")
My name's Amy, and my nickname is Raven. I'm 37, married just over 19 years to an amazing, gold-hearted guy with a small stature but a big alpha personality (I once teased him that our Bantam roosters reminded me of him--he found that pretty amusing). I grew up around mostly boys (I have three brothers), and I'm a bit of a tomboy, though I've become a little more feminine over the years. My husband and I have six children together (three boys, three girls) between the ages of 16 months and 18 years old. I've happily been a stay-at-home mom for about 12 years now.
A little bit after the birth of our fifth child almost 3 years ago, I noticed that people were treating me just a little differently than I was used to. Things like men not being quite as flirty/friendly with me, whether or not any of my kids were with me. Even my husband was less flirty and cuddly during most of the month than he had been throughout the rest of our marriage, even though we were still close and loving. At first, I just attributed it to our getting older, being tired due to the kids, etc. But after a few months, I realized that women were also treating me a little differently, being polite but aloof, even though I was reaching out and trying to make friends--which had always worked in the past. It just seemed like it was harder to "click" with anyone than it used to be. I figured it must be something about *me* that had changed--so that "something" about me needed to change if I wanted others to respond to me differently.
So I did what I usually do: started reading whatever I could find that might be relevant to my problem. As I sorted through self-help books about body language and social skills, etc., little of it was helping.
After a while, I also came across a few articles and books that talked about body chemistry changing as we age, and when we go through pregnancy, etc., and I began to wonder if that might have something to do with it, since not much else had changed and behavior changes weren't helping much. But I didn't really know where to go from there. Then a friend-of-a-friend suggested that pheromones might help give me a little "boost in the right direction" for social interactions, so I began researching pheromones off and on... but really didn't come across a lot of good, solid, practical information (most of it was just confusing), until I finally ended up here.![Curtsey]( "Curtsey")
My name's Amy, and my nickname is Raven. I'm 37, married just over 19 years to an amazing, gold-hearted guy with a small stature but a big alpha personality (I once teased him that our Bantam roosters reminded me of him--he found that pretty amusing). I grew up around mostly boys (I have three brothers), and I'm a bit of a tomboy, though I've become a little more feminine over the years. My husband and I have six children together (three boys, three girls) between the ages of 16 months and 18 years old. I've happily been a stay-at-home mom for about 12 years now.
A little bit after the birth of our fifth child almost 3 years ago, I noticed that people were treating me just a little differently than I was used to. Things like men not being quite as flirty/friendly with me, whether or not any of my kids were with me. Even my husband was less flirty and cuddly during most of the month than he had been throughout the rest of our marriage, even though we were still close and loving. At first, I just attributed it to our getting older, being tired due to the kids, etc. But after a few months, I realized that women were also treating me a little differently, being polite but aloof, even though I was reaching out and trying to make friends--which had always worked in the past. It just seemed like it was harder to "click" with anyone than it used to be. I figured it must be something about *me* that had changed--so that "something" about me needed to change if I wanted others to respond to me differently.
So I did what I usually do: started reading whatever I could find that might be relevant to my problem. As I sorted through self-help books about body language and social skills, etc., little of it was helping.
After a while, I also came across a few articles and books that talked about body chemistry changing as we age, and when we go through pregnancy, etc., and I began to wonder if that might have something to do with it, since not much else had changed and behavior changes weren't helping much. But I didn't really know where to go from there. Then a friend-of-a-friend suggested that pheromones might help give me a little "boost in the right direction" for social interactions, so I began researching pheromones off and on... but really didn't come across a lot of good, solid, practical information (most of it was just confusing), until I finally ended up here.
