Background
I am seriously contemplating quitting drinking for the rest of the year. For the last several years when I've taken a girl on a date it has always been to bars for a drink or to my place for a movie or dinner. I obviously try to have sex with her back in my place and sometimes I fail and sometimes I succeed.
Reasons for stopping drinking
1. I have a beer belly - drinking apparently stalls fat loss in the abdomen area due to increasing cortisol and the fact that beers and some hard liquor has estrogenic substances.
2. Drinking often leads me to staying up really late and the next day is completely shot.
3. I want to build muscle mass and for a variety of reasons I feel like drinking alcohol gets in the way of that.
Problem
I really have no clue how to date without taking a woman to a bar. Over the winter I met a girl that I texted and asked her to join me for a drink. She told me that she doesn't go on drink dates and I would have to come up with something more creative. Needless to say I didn't text her back.
Date Ideas Without Drinking
Concerns about Date Ideas
Here in NYC I've known various women over the last several years. I've heard many women complain about guys they have dated over the years. Sometimes they complain about guys who don't drink. They think it's lame. I have had women tell me they would never consider dating a guy who didn't drink. Now I have the idea in my head that dating without drinking is lame.
Long term Plan
I want to lose my gut and put on a little muscle mass. Then once 2015 rolls around I want to start drinking again and going to bars/clubs to hit on women.
I am seriously contemplating quitting drinking for the rest of the year. For the last several years when I've taken a girl on a date it has always been to bars for a drink or to my place for a movie or dinner. I obviously try to have sex with her back in my place and sometimes I fail and sometimes I succeed.
Reasons for stopping drinking
1. I have a beer belly - drinking apparently stalls fat loss in the abdomen area due to increasing cortisol and the fact that beers and some hard liquor has estrogenic substances.
2. Drinking often leads me to staying up really late and the next day is completely shot.
3. I want to build muscle mass and for a variety of reasons I feel like drinking alcohol gets in the way of that.
Problem
I really have no clue how to date without taking a woman to a bar. Over the winter I met a girl that I texted and asked her to join me for a drink. She told me that she doesn't go on drink dates and I would have to come up with something more creative. Needless to say I didn't text her back.
Date Ideas Without Drinking
- I can take a woman to starbucks for a first date.
- I can take a woman to a juice bar instead of a regular bar. I'm not sure if you can get 100% veggie juices without fruit. I've also never been inside one so I don't know what the seating is like.
- I can ask a woman to join me for a walk in central park.
- I can tell a woman that I'm going to be reading a book in central park and that she is welcome to join me.
Concerns about Date Ideas
Here in NYC I've known various women over the last several years. I've heard many women complain about guys they have dated over the years. Sometimes they complain about guys who don't drink. They think it's lame. I have had women tell me they would never consider dating a guy who didn't drink. Now I have the idea in my head that dating without drinking is lame.
Long term Plan
I want to lose my gut and put on a little muscle mass. Then once 2015 rolls around I want to start drinking again and going to bars/clubs to hit on women.