Dear all,
I'm a newbie and in a difficult situation. I'll be as brief as possible:
The Girl
30 year old arty/geeky/alternative type (unemployed artist, upper middle class family background) with hot teen model body (5'10'', 128lb). Looks and behaves like MUCH younger, never wears make-up, wears jeans, t-shirts and Chuck Taylors. Very sensitive and intuitive, prone to mood swings. Very child-like aura, but occasionally a dark party-animal side manifests. MBTI type: probably INFJ.
The situation:
Met her a couple of months ago while I was in another relationship. Many common interests, instant comfort, similar tastes, deep conversations, a very 'soul-mate'-like quality in our communication. I occasionally teased her, playing strict daddy on her and she would jump around giggling like a little girl. She has told me I would make a perfect father...Fell in love with her madly.
My previous relationship ended, went out with her wearing a huge dose of a cheap androstenone mone. STUPID MISTAKE. While I did not make a move, she later reported to a common friend that 'I was all over her, she felt pressured etc.' I am also told that she has now lost all trust; she thinks that everything was just an elaborate seduction routine on my part in order to bed her. I am now trying through common friends to prove that this was not the case.
Question: I'll probably meet her again soon. I desperately need some mone help, but this time it is crucial to be the right one. What would you reccommend for re-establishing trust, feelings of safety and honesty?
(Sexiness is not a priority, better to keep her as a friend than lose her completely.)
I'm a newbie and in a difficult situation. I'll be as brief as possible:
The Girl
30 year old arty/geeky/alternative type (unemployed artist, upper middle class family background) with hot teen model body (5'10'', 128lb). Looks and behaves like MUCH younger, never wears make-up, wears jeans, t-shirts and Chuck Taylors. Very sensitive and intuitive, prone to mood swings. Very child-like aura, but occasionally a dark party-animal side manifests. MBTI type: probably INFJ.
The situation:
Met her a couple of months ago while I was in another relationship. Many common interests, instant comfort, similar tastes, deep conversations, a very 'soul-mate'-like quality in our communication. I occasionally teased her, playing strict daddy on her and she would jump around giggling like a little girl. She has told me I would make a perfect father...Fell in love with her madly.
My previous relationship ended, went out with her wearing a huge dose of a cheap androstenone mone. STUPID MISTAKE. While I did not make a move, she later reported to a common friend that 'I was all over her, she felt pressured etc.' I am also told that she has now lost all trust; she thinks that everything was just an elaborate seduction routine on my part in order to bed her. I am now trying through common friends to prove that this was not the case.
Question: I'll probably meet her again soon. I desperately need some mone help, but this time it is crucial to be the right one. What would you reccommend for re-establishing trust, feelings of safety and honesty?
(Sexiness is not a priority, better to keep her as a friend than lose her completely.)